I am a bedroom submissive. My boyfriend is loving and caring and very dominant, which I like. But sometimes, after its all over, I feel guilty about the B&D. I was raised in a home with very "traditional" views on sex but at the same time a very "women are equal to men mentality," and I feel like I'm doing something wrong by letting him control and dominate me. We've talked about it, but I haven't been able to get over it yet. I also go through phases where I don't want to have anything to do with B&D when I get really emotional, which drives him crazy because I'm hot one minute and cold the next. Is this normal? I'm also having issues separating the bedroom submissive side of me and the independent educated woman side.