face slap

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by submissivegf07, Apr 29, 2011.

  1. submissivegf07

    submissivegf07 New Member

    anyone? me and my dom are quite into face slapping. he slaps my face whenever he feels like to, and as a foreplay, he would slap me pretty hard for like 20 times... and he slaps on my face to signal me to switch to the bdsm mode from vanilla (we're a couple):p
  2. Smallest

    Smallest Moderator

    I wouldn't mind and might enjoy it, but for other reasons we can't.
  3. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    Did you have a question about face slapping? It's not uncommon, although it is a little controversial because of the emotional implications. Also, it's hard to hide bruising from face slapping, and obviously that can arouse a lot of attention.
  4. nottsdom

    nottsdom New Member

    ive never just slapped randomly (however i havent had a true D/s relationship yet) but when getting into an energetic session my ex loved being slapped, and choked, and spat on - harder the better as it made her cum violently
  5. submissivegf07

    submissivegf07 New Member

    no, sebastian, it is not a question but i am curious that if we are the only ones who enjoy this, i sometimes get scared though, i don't bruise easily but one time my face and my lips are swollen and he was panic, i was worried that it may look obvious but it went away after i put ice on where it was swollen. few slaps are pleasurable but more than 10 i will be kindda scared... i hope i can have a chance to talk to my dom about this...should i?
  6. nottsdom

    nottsdom New Member

    of course you should if its something your not comfortable with - 20times (especially out the blue) does seem like your dom is taking things to far in my opinion. the fact your not happy with it would also suggest he is
    Last edited: Apr 29, 2011
  7. P.S.Eudonym

    P.S.Eudonym Member

    Simple answer. If you feel uncomfortable with anything bdsm (or your relationship) then yes, you need to tell him.
  8. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    I'll second what Notts and PS said. As the sub, you have the right to talk to your dom about anything you are truly uncomfortable with. Ask him for a safe word so you can stop the slapping when you have reached your physical or emotional limit. Some days, that limit might be 1, and some days it might be 20.

    A few other basic pointers on face-slapping: It should be done with an open hand (not a fist), against the cheek, and the dom should not be wearing any rings or anything else that could cut, snag, or poke the sub's face. If the sub has piercing jewelry in, s/he should probably take it out before being slapped. Bitch-slapping or back-and-forth slapping is probably asking for an injury--broken noses, broken or dislodged teeth, a damaged or dislocated jaw, and damage to the ear or eye are all very real risks of aggressive face-slapping. How many slaps your face can handle probably varies depending on 1) how easily you bruise and heal and 2) how heavy the slap is. But 10 heavy slaps strikes me as about the upper limit.
  9. WrathofThor

    WrathofThor New Member

    My girlfriend and I really enjoy this... slapping, spit on, choked, name calling all seem to go hand in hand. A few in a row is fine for us, but it has a strong emotional component so I think it's best done spread out and with both directed attention and intention, not something you can carelessly do like slapping an ass.

    One more thing about safety: make sure that the person getting slapped has their mouth/jaws closed. Even a sideways slap has a risk of causing the teeth to bang together, you could crack a tooth or even chomp down on a chunk of your tongue. You'd be surprised at how resilient you are when prepared this way. I even work it in so that the command to close her mouth leads to the anticipation of her face getting slapped.

    It's a pretty intimate thing in its own way. More romantic than a french kiss!
  10. WrathofThor

    WrathofThor New Member

    Never done any heavy face slapping though, and always square on the cheek for maximum safety. The temple is a big NO, as is the nose and any area around the eyes, so that doesn't leave much else. If you want to cause more pain, you can do a stinging slap with your fingers. A lot less concussive force and you can get more speed with little to no harm done.
  11. pandj3929

    pandj3929 New Member

    My sub and I are new and working our way through finding limits. The other night we set up a scene and something we wanted to try was face slapping. Well the first time I did I saw it caught her by surprise. I did not hit to hard and it was open hand. When I saw the reaction I did not break the scene I just waited for an oportunity and gave instruction that if she looks up at me again she would get slapped. So I guess without totally relinquishing control I put the choice in her hands. We talked about it afterwards and she said she liked it but was caught off gaurd by the solidness of it(I have been a brickmason for 20+ years). Her only other experience I was told was a fingertip slap that felt like wet noodles. As I said we are new and I just take it as a learning experience for more fun to come.
  12. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    Pandj, I like that. Lots of doms use techniques that allow the sub to control the pace of the play, and that's a nice one that keeps everything in character.

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