dom for the first time, need advice

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  1. Ravensong

    Ravensong New Member

    Greetings all!

    I'm a 28 y/o male.. I've never done anything like this before (Most of the time I'm a very tender lover, though I have had rough sex here and there) but I am starting a relationship with a sexually sub girl.

    The D & S thing really appeals to me (I have a very dominant personality in social life) but I don't know where to start... part of the problem is I was raised to be very polite... I'm very awkward about even using impolite sexual terms.. I usually count on inuendo to get my point accross.

    I don't want to be getting into details, but I will be having sex with this sexually submissive girl for the first time in about 6 weeks and I want to be prepared... make sure that I know what to expect and what to do! I'm really looking forward to this opportunity and don't want to screw it up.

    So start with the extreme basics... not only what do I do.. but how do I behave when doing it... tone of voice... etc.

    Her exact quote via a text message was "I want you to be dirty with me, I want to be your little slut. I am very sub in bed you need to smack my ass until it's red then shove your cock down my throat".

    The idea of this really excites me but I dont know where to start or how to go about it!

    Thanks in advance for the advice!
  2. ReallyGreen

    ReallyGreen Member

    The best ass-smacking tutorial I've seen so far is DemLab's S/MTech Spanking DVD/book (go to amazon and search 'lolita wolf'). Aside from that i generally promote OSK production's 'How to' series of DVDs (OSK is a relatively new Canadian porn company). Suspension, rope bondage, puppy play, deep throating, anal sex, etc. I'd send your sub the titles on deep throating, Fellatio, Handjobs, and Footjobs. That way at least you'll know she's had a few weeks to practice before you two crazy kids hook-up.

    Once you've got the dominant skills set (and a few good toys, I'm always a fan of Stockroom stuff), The last part is to develop a character/persona (ie. how you act & behave). Just watch some Maledom videos online and pick & choose the parts you like. Or just rent The Secretary .
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