I was told that I would be considered a switch in the BDSM community. I don't know much about this and so I will probably say something out of line. I am sorry. (I am a 22 yr old female) I don't know if I belong here. I often find myself needing to please both in and out of bed. My first sexual experience was from a 34 yr old man when I was 14. I was abused and raped, developed a Stockholm syndrome but never quite got over everything (Please no remarks about that, it's just for background information). I believe this has led to me being dominate in social situations but craving someone to be more dominate than I. Someone to tell me everything I have to do, how to do it, and when. Someone to give me rules and structure. I want someone to control me, please me but completely overpower me. I crave older men (at least 5 yrs older than I), taller than I, and are stronger. Rough, masculine, alpha. Someone who knows what he wants and will call me a 'good girl'. However, I am a switch, apparently. And have quite a dominate streak to me which craves control and gets off on others being in pain and submission to my will. Even outside of bed. >.> I have quite a few fetishes that can be added to this list, but not now. So if you've cared to read any of this, could you tell me. Would this be a good place to come for advice and the like?