It's been a while since I posted here, so this is somewhat of an update on my relationship with my pet, as well as asking for advice. Pardon me in advance if what I'm about to say sounds misogynistic at all, it's definitely not my intention. I'm starting to feel like she isn't really submissive at all. I got the impression that she's a switch, but lately her dominant side seems to have been coming out. Maybe I'm completely misunderstanding things since I'm still learning as a dominant always seems to do. I already know she's very stubborn, but today she said something that threw me for a loop, even though at the same time I understand what she said. She said she wants to do what I tell her, but only "at her own pace". What does that mean? I know submissives are obviously entitled to their limits, but it's feeling as if she's the one trying to dominate and lead me. How do I get her to open up and tell her exactly what she means by at her own pace? It completely confuses me and keeps me from learning exactly what she needs in order to get comfortable enough to drop her guard. Or is there nothing I can do at all and I just have to wait for her to come around?