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Lately, after talking in depth with a number of female subs on a well known bdsm community site, I was surprised by how many of them (so far about 6 out of 10) openly admit to being affected by either depression or mood swings and to being on medication for their currently medically diagnosed illnesses.
I'm not sure whether such a high percentage is a usual thing statistically.....
It makes me wonder whether these sorts of ailments often go with the territory in the context of BDSM relationships and practice, and, again, I am specifically talking about medically diagnosed mental disturbances here, not mere characterial flaws. I was discussing this issue with a friend who has much more experience than I as a BDMSer, and he feels that some subs clearly have deep psychological issues, while others are probably dealing with depression either because of failed love lives or inability to get their submissive needs met.
I'm looking at it the other way around...at the possibility of depression/mental illness being not a *consequence* of their failed love lives and inability to get their needs met, as my friend suggested, but rather a *requisite* at the base of their being drawn to the bdsm scene in the first place ... By all means, I want to make it clear that I'm not talking about everyone involved in BDSM, of course... this is in reference to the pretty high percentage of this occurrence relative to those cases I have come across and mentioned above.
It is natural, in my opinion, to assume that certain types of mental illness and depression may very well lead a human being to self-hatred and the seeking out of corporal/emotional/mental punishment/pain in a self-destructive fashion. I would think it a good thing to be aware of and also to be able to recognize such dynamics when we encounter them in the context of the scene. I most certainly wouldn't want to make any personal contribution to that kind of self-destructiveness in any way, for ethical, moral and spiritual reasons.
Most definitely, I do not find it acceptable to feed on another's sad medical condition in order to get my erotic kicks and fulfill my dominant needs, hence my delving into this issue and writing about it here for feedback.
It would be great to hear from those who are part of this community and willing to share their personal experience, regardless of their orientation... Do you often come across this type of situation; are you personally affected by it; what do you think about the ethical/moral question...how does that affect you. Looking forward to the input of anyone willing to share their personal experience in this regard....
I'm not sure whether such a high percentage is a usual thing statistically.....
It makes me wonder whether these sorts of ailments often go with the territory in the context of BDSM relationships and practice, and, again, I am specifically talking about medically diagnosed mental disturbances here, not mere characterial flaws. I was discussing this issue with a friend who has much more experience than I as a BDMSer, and he feels that some subs clearly have deep psychological issues, while others are probably dealing with depression either because of failed love lives or inability to get their submissive needs met.
I'm looking at it the other way around...at the possibility of depression/mental illness being not a *consequence* of their failed love lives and inability to get their needs met, as my friend suggested, but rather a *requisite* at the base of their being drawn to the bdsm scene in the first place ... By all means, I want to make it clear that I'm not talking about everyone involved in BDSM, of course... this is in reference to the pretty high percentage of this occurrence relative to those cases I have come across and mentioned above.
It is natural, in my opinion, to assume that certain types of mental illness and depression may very well lead a human being to self-hatred and the seeking out of corporal/emotional/mental punishment/pain in a self-destructive fashion. I would think it a good thing to be aware of and also to be able to recognize such dynamics when we encounter them in the context of the scene. I most certainly wouldn't want to make any personal contribution to that kind of self-destructiveness in any way, for ethical, moral and spiritual reasons.
Most definitely, I do not find it acceptable to feed on another's sad medical condition in order to get my erotic kicks and fulfill my dominant needs, hence my delving into this issue and writing about it here for feedback.
It would be great to hear from those who are part of this community and willing to share their personal experience, regardless of their orientation... Do you often come across this type of situation; are you personally affected by it; what do you think about the ethical/moral question...how does that affect you. Looking forward to the input of anyone willing to share their personal experience in this regard....
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