I have often wondered if many/most subbies have a common set of expereinces. I know that there is a psyche profile; people pleasers, many don't like conflict, etc. but I wonder if there is a common set of actual experiences, i.e. do most subs at some point in their lives fall in love with /have a crush on an authority figure in their lives? I was surprised, for exmple, by the number of women subbies here who said in another threaad that they had rape or violent fantasies at surprisingly young ages. (Although I do not intend to limit the answers on this thread to women.) I expect answers to be scattered about so don't worry about hijacking the thread. A loose discussion woven around common experiences is exactly what I have in mind.