Collars, Collaring, and Everything Inbetween

Precious · May 12, 2010

I happen to really, really resent that statement. Marriages between people who believe in the permanence of marriage, of working out your issues without jumping to the court room DO work. I've seen it work for many, many people.

I do agree with this; my parents have been married for about 25 years, my grand parents on both sides were married until one spouse passed away... I also know many 'collared' people who end up not lasting i think any form of relationship has its dedicators and its fakers

sillylittlepet · May 12, 2010

that's so interesting!

I really want to wear a collar for my master, but I don't think I'm anywhere near ready to be collared

EveryRoseHasIt'sThorns · May 12, 2010

Placing a ring on someones finger does not create commitment. People who are deeply committed to each other will stay together. Some just happen to be married.

Sorry to have offended you, but marriages, by my own definition, and surely not everyone's, don't last. By your definition they do.

Precious · May 12, 2010

As i had said earlier, just like any relationship be it a SM relationship where they get collared, a marriage, a free love, a family, friends, any relationship between two people- there are those who last and those who don't. It's just human nature.

P.s- when ever I read your sn EveryRose, I get that song stuck in my head lol

InnocentFacade · May 13, 2010

I would never say that ALL marriages last. I think a huge problem is the huge emphasis on making your wedding day a huge ordeal that is now costing tens of thousands of dollars . . . and who, newly married or not, needs that kind of stress?

A piece of metal means nothing. The symbolism behind a wedding ring means everything.

I have a feeling we're going to have to agree to disagree, so I digress.

sillylittlepet · May 13, 2010

well a collar could mean as little as a wedding ring if the two people aren't compatible or dont put their all behind the relationship

I dont think I would say one is better or more meaningful than the other

Sado_Dom · May 13, 2010

The spiritual (or however you wanna put it) aspect of the collar, just like a wedding ring, is much more important than the physical aspect. Materialism kills.

Sparrow69 · May 13, 2010

sillylittlepet said:
that's so interesting!

I really want to wear a collar for my master, but I don't think I'm anywhere near ready to be collared

I do believe the reference is two fold.. 1) a reference to symbolism of slaves and subservient in a historical reference, and 2) a reference to the taking of a slave as described by John Norman in his ever popular Gorean writings.

Precious · May 14, 2010

I love the feeling of having a collar on, but actually being collared as many said, is a huge step and no way am i ready for that nor would i rush into it

L8NightQ · May 15, 2010

I have put collars on subs, and have never put the same on two different ones. They come off after we're done. I use them to help with the scene (to attach things to), or sometimes to re-enforce her lack of power.

I do believe that being collared carries the same weight as being married, and that the discussion that EveryRose and innocent got into had more to do with how commonplace marriage is and how many clueless people get into it no knowing what it really means and what kind of commitment it really takes (just like collaring).

We won't find any statistics on how many of us collar or get collared, and how long they last. I know at least three subs that have been collared, and aren't any more. Each of them thought it would last, and knew that it's what they wanted at the time.

I am really starting to believe that more and more just don't understand what forever means.

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