Being a FemDom for a price

Discussion in 'General BDSM discussions' started by FantasyDollHouse, Jul 24, 2012.

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  1. FantasyDollHouse

    FantasyDollHouse New Member

    Is is bad to offer to be a Dom for many subs and subs pay you to be a Dom? I am thinking of being a FemDom to many male subs who are single and just want to experience being dominated, but I want to charge them a fee. No sex or sex favors, just bondage, humiliation, trampling, and impact play.

    Please give me advice.
     
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  2. Smallest

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    It's not uncommon to either be a professional with a setup (like a Dominatrix) or to expect paid tribute from subs (also called financial domming). If you want it to be for real income, I'd make sure you're in an area where a dominatrix would have customers, and if you just want occasional fee, I'd say to go right ahead.

    It is not considered prostitution if there is no sex, even if your clients get off on it, as a side note, but I would still check legalities (or just see if there are other prodommes in your state, which would be a good hint).

    As one domme I talked to put it, why not ask for a fee, when you have put time and money not only into that experience, but into building your tool kit and dungeon?
     
  3. sebastian

    sebastian Active Member

    'Bad' is a pretty vague term. Bad in what sense? Immoral, illegal, tasteless, foolish?

    The best advice I can give you is to contact a prodomme and ask her what you need to know. You might ask to serve a period of apprenticeship, if you can find one near you, so you can watch her and get some training.

    Also, do not agree to provide any service that you don't know how to do safely. If you're going to do anything more than light bondage or pain play, make sure you know how to do those things safely before you advertise yourself. As a professional, you have an obligation to genuinely have the skills you are advertising.
     
  4. Smallest

    Smallest Moderator

    As an addition to sebastian's comment, getting your first aid certification (it should only take one or a few cheap day long courses and a test) would be a good addition. Also, I suggest working with a lawyer to have a waiver written up. Waivers aren't great, as illustrated in another thread, but you'd want to have people show that they don't have a health problem that would be dangerous to play. Like before you go to a new dentist or whatever and there's a checklist of conditions.
     
  5. FantasyDollHouse

    FantasyDollHouse New Member

    Thanks for the advice. I assume I can try to find FemDoms in my area and ask to be an apprentice. I would like to learn techniques and safety procedures. I am already first aid certified, however I should renew it since it's been a while. I am also reading a few of the books and links you two posted in the Newbies thread, which is great.
     
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