BDSM vs. Making Love

RS1981 · Jan 19, 2011

Yeah that's a good point too Nuk, I look at BDSM (The sexual part anyway.) as kink from my perspective... Not that kink is a bad thing of course.

Nuka · Jan 19, 2011

Oh no of course not, we just see our kinks as still making love

domafilms · Jan 20, 2011

bdsm is making love

Areus · Jan 25, 2011

I don't really draw the distinction you seem to on this one. Possibly because my relationship is 24/7 M/s, I guess, but to me everything we do is permeated equally by love and kink. My slave is ALWAYS mine, though we do pass for Vanilla in public to the uninitiated. The two are entirely inextricable for me, I guess is what I'm saying.

With casual partners, though, I'd say it's probably 70/30 BDSM/vanilla, depending on your definition. I very rarely break out actual toys with random players, but I tend to give orders and hold them down if they're into it, and I always do things like biting and hair-pulling, though that's stuff that isn't especially kinky even by 'normal' standards. It's kind of a blurry line, I suppose.

L8NightQ · Jan 26, 2011

Agreed. With a partner that's into it with you, where does one start and the other end?

This was a good thread RS.

Mistress_Andrea · Jan 30, 2011

When you're with the right person, it doesn't ever have to be one or the other... you learn to do both together.

RexTeens · Feb 5, 2011

I have to agree. It is one in the same. I feel it takes a lot of love to tie someone up and fuck their brains out, tease their senses, and push their limits and an equal amount if not more to let it be done to you.
for myself, I always enjoyed being cuddled and showered with kisses and affection after being hogtied with hot wax dripped on me and fucked in every hole. If he doesn't I feel a bit more empty inside.

Likely · Feb 6, 2011

I agree that it's always making love but it's also always bdsm. Master can't turn off being a dom any more than I can turn off being a sub. So even if we are just performing a non-kinky sex act, Master is still very much in command and directing events. I can ask for things but whether I receive them is entirely at his discretion. I can even experiment and initiate new things but once again, if Master doesn't want it to happen, it wont

And of course, I don't get to say no

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