My nature is that of a Dom, that's the way I was born and have always felt. I always repressed it, though, choked it deep inside myself until recently, because I was so convinced this was something to be really ashamed about that made me some sort of a monster. Reading forums such as this one, I've now come to the realization that embracing this nature of mine is an alright thing to do. What I've done so far is just light stuff with bdsm overtones in the context of vanilla relationships, but doing it that way has only served to sharpen my appetite for the real thing. Now, here's the problem. The women I come across with that I sense to be submissives...once they sense my dominating nature, they become passive and very nice to me. They do nothing...just become nice and docile and passive and behave in such a way as to be liked. Something perhaps is wrong with the way I'm wired psychologically (as a dom), or perhaps it might simply be lack of experience with submissives at heart, but I find that that type of behavior on their part much turns me off as a dominant... The niceness I mean... I'd rather be turned on by someone who misbehaves, who upsets me a bit, in such a way as to justify my retaliation...their being punished... Am I alone in this kind of psychological makeup, and what to do about it? Your feedback will be much appreciated.