I'm a new dom, only been doing this a couple weeks. Me and my wife were talking and we found out that each of us have been wanting to do this for a while, but we were too afraid of the others reaction. We have 2 kids so this we keep this well hidden, and it isn't a 24/7 thing. She is a very head strong, no bullshit woman, and everything we do is mutually decided. She loves trying to see how far she can push me, and I'll admit it has been pretty far. I'm still getting used to the idea of punishment, but I'm having a hard time carrying it out. I was wondering if anybody has had similar problems? I think I am just going to have to bend her over a chair and get the paddle out. I've read through a lot of the posts here and love some of the punishments mentioned.