Alcohol during a scene

Discussion in 'Safety aspects of BDSM' started by Omoo, Mar 13, 2008.

  1. Omoo

    Omoo New Member

    Is alcohol ever acceptable for use before or during a scene? Is it safety or not?
    How do you think?

    Thanks for your responses.
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  2. torris

    torris New Member

    The problem with alcohol is that it impairs judgment. Its use would depend on how much you drink and how much you trust your partner. Anytime you use a substance that can be considered mood altering increases the risk of something bad happening. Be very careful.
  3. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    a sub should have a clear enough mind to know if they are ever actually in danger, especially in a new relationship or in a scene with strangers, and a dom needs to have a clear head to maintain control. alcohol is never a good idea in a scene.
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  4. Prissy

    Prissy Member

    Alcoholic is always a bad thing. No use of alcohol should be used in BDSM.
  5. Master C

    Master C Member

    Prissy, alcohol was all you needed for the first sentence. But you are correct about alcohol, is bad regardless what you are doing.
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  6. ReallyGreen

    ReallyGreen Member

    Alcohol is also a blood thinner. Which people into bloodplay will probably want to take advantage of (also aspirin).

    Personally I like my alcohol (and pot) after a session. Just sit back and let the warmth from your bruises just soak in. Thats the ticket.
  7. Emma

    Emma Member

    I like being a bit tipsy when im doing stuff cuz im more likely to actually ask for what i want then and not be afraid of the reaction cuz i can blame it on the drink. But this would be with boyfriends/fellas ive never discussed bdsm openly with.

    I would say a safeword would be neccessary if you were drinkin cuz that way you can be very clear if its going to far and obviously you dont want to be completely scuttered drunk!

    I had a really bad experience alcohol and rape fanatasies before though bit different from this situation but still. Me and my ex used to always act them out and we loved them. One night when we were drunk he started trying to do anal and i was like eh no stop and he just kept going and i couldnt get him to stop until he actually got the full way in and i punched him cuz it hurt so much. He was convinced i was doing the thing were i say no but really i want him to force me or so he said anyway, the fucker, ha! So ye needless to say that wasnt nice and i think it took him about an hour to calm me down and stop me from nearly ringing the police to report him, i was so pissed!

    So ye if your gonna drink and do a scene id advise being clear on what your going to do beforehand, have a safe word and drink in moderation!
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  8. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    or even better yet, be honest and up front with what you want, so you wont a)be stuck with a guy who will never fully satisfy you, and b)you wont put yourself in a dangerous situation, and c)you wont get hurt under the guise of an excuse like " thought you were acting out the scene" or "I didn't hear you use the safe word."

    Alcohol should not be needed for any scene, and if the scene involves a play set where your drinking and drunk, try ordering a tonic and lime. all the taste and smell of gin or cheap tequila, none of the effect, and then you can simply "act" drunk.
    It's what i drink as a designated driver, so i can still mingle and fit into the party.
  9. Emma

    Emma Member

    Oh of course but sometimes thats easier said than done! I have become more open about it though and obviously with previous people bdsm was only a small part of what we did so alcohol didnt matter when we had sex but i dont think id risk it in more bdsm focused circumstances.
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  10. pyroaquatic

    pyroaquatic Member

    Alcohol ads too many variables into the mix. Besides, there should be a natural high unless you are not doing something correctly.

    Personally there is no need for it in a 'session'.
  11. subspace

    subspace Member

    Yep exactly pyroaquatic. I had a Dom tell me once that the use of alcohol is cheating. Not only is not safe but it means that you are not trusting the D/s relationship. If you need to escape a little to get into a scene that’s what ‘subspace’ is for!
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  12. Emma

    Emma Member

    Whats subspace??
  13. subspace

    subspace Member

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  14. pyroaquatic

    pyroaquatic Member

    Drugs are bad, mmmmmkay.

    But pain and submission are a hokey dorey. Dig? Good... here is a shovel.

    I never thought of it as cheating... just... why? What is the point of a hangover in the morning!? You feel like Crap! I am not saying i do not drink... most of my peers believe that if you don't vomit you are not doing your job right.

    Stupid stupid peers of mine.
  15. Sparrow69

    Sparrow69 Moderator

    trust me when I say I can throw back with the best of them, and yes, I've thrown up my fair share, but like everyone has said, alcohol has no place in a scene.

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