I'm about to cry, I just wrote a long post and lost everything. I'm going to summarize and will tell the whole story(again!) if I get enough interest. Feel free to ask questions. I feel like I'm running out of oxygen. I love my husband to death but I'm not sexually attracted to him at all. For years I've felt the need to be controlled, spanked, punished and fucked without mercy and my husband has no interest. I feel like this is my cry for help but what can anyone possibly do to help? My husband has occasionally been 'dominant' in the bedroom but its a far cry from what I need. Any other mention I've given him of wanting more is either laughed off or ignored. He has no interest in pursuing anything farther than we already have(which isn't much) and has even told me that sometimes he wants me to take control in the bedroom. It makes me feel very uncomfortable and I freeze up, I hate it! I've tried my best to let my urges go but they keep coming back stronger. I'm miserable I don't know what to do. We have two children together and our relationship isn't technically bad, just unsatisfying and it leaves a piece of me left needing more. Please, can somebody, anybody help or offer advice?