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    From Vanilla to D/S - Story and Questions (Long!)

    Haven't posted here in a long time, but I was wandering the net on my day off and came upon your post and feel compelled to give some input. 1) As soon as I read the first paragraph, I guessed you were overweight. I don't know the exact state of your physical fitness, but I believe you can...
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    Questions About BDSM and Marriage

    I think it's definitely possible. I too identify myself as Christian (despite the screen name... haha) although I don't belong to a formal organization of any kind and the way I practice my beliefs is heavily influenced by eastern religions. I'm one of the lucky ones that found my girlfriend in...
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    Concerns about dealing with psychologically unwell BDSMers

    I have a suggestion on how to deal with this. A lot of play comes from catering to the submissive person's wishes out of necessity for safe sane and consensual play. But in a deeper D/S relationship there is a power dynamic that extends into the person's life. In order to balance out someone...
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    Concerns about dealing with psychologically unwell BDSMers

    This is a really interesting topic, and like SLP said unless you do a comprehensive study (which I doubt has ever been done fairly), our answers are only based on personal experience and theoretical speculation. Still there are a lot of fundamental questions here that slip between the...
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    Question from a 100% Virgin Newbie

    Hi laGuera, The only person who knows what he means is him. It could range from relatively innocent to something extreme and dangerous. I'm sure that most professional dungeons that have dom/sub services have a lengthy interviewing process to be able to establish what the client is interested...
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    Some perspective on my slave

    I agree with the "friendzone" (nice way to put it btw) idea... if he is placing such a huge importance on you in his life, I'm assuming he doesn't have a large network of caring family and friends to fall back on emotionally. I personally think a relationship only works if both parties have a...
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    Mixed feelings after pain play

    New and Seb, that's a very good point! There is a lot of yin/yang interflux going on in any scene and even from a physiological point of view the release of neurotransmitters/hormones will have a recovery period for the body to return to balance. I suppose this has a positive and negative aspect...
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    Mixed feelings after pain play

    I found that very insightful on both accounts, thanks. Communication has never been more open but I'm starting to realize there is a lot going on in a scene beyond what it appears, such as juggling your inhibitions as you let them go while restraining to gradually guide someone into sub space...
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    Mixed feelings after pain play

    My sub and I (still fairly new to this and a young couple) did a scene this weekend and I pushed her boundaries with spanking both with my hand and a long wooden ruler. She looked like she was in heaven afterwards, and her tears really turned me on, but I started feeling soft and wanted just to...
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    alternative methods to chloroform

    If you have all weekend, you could try alcohol one night, "kidnap" her while she's vulnerable, and play the next day when she's recovered. Not shitfaced drunk but a few drinks is a pretty safe sedative.
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    face slap

    Never done any heavy face slapping though, and always square on the cheek for maximum safety. The temple is a big NO, as is the nose and any area around the eyes, so that doesn't leave much else. If you want to cause more pain, you can do a stinging slap with your fingers. A lot less concussive...
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    face slap

    My girlfriend and I really enjoy this... slapping, spit on, choked, name calling all seem to go hand in hand. A few in a row is fine for us, but it has a strong emotional component so I think it's best done spread out and with both directed attention and intention, not something you can...
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    Flogger material

    I realize there have been threads on floggers, but I have a more specific question. My first flogger was suede but was cheap - plastic handle and the falls were only about 10'. Using it for too long or hitting too hard makes my girlfriend's skin itchy and it's not fun for her. I've learned to...
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    Something that I was wondering about.

    I agree completely. I believe it's a sign of an underdeveloped personality or out of bravado, because there is only so far you can share your sex life without actually doing the act. Things like music and art are universal experiences that we can all share, but to most of us sex is not. I feel...
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    Something that I was wondering about.

    I'm entering the field of alternative medicine and involved in a lot of bodywork such as acupuncture, which requires a great deal of trust from patient to doctor because the procedure is potentially harmful if done incorrectly and in many cases can be fairly painful/emotional. What would your...
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