Recent content by subarama30

To me, it depends on personality and circumstances. I spend what some people would think is maybe an unhealthy amount of time with my husband but we always have, we are never apart for very long and even when he works he calls twice a day. It's just us so it wouldn't bother us working together...

Hi boyJay, it is hard if you can't have personal contact with your Master when you go through this. I think it can be harder to deal with your emotions when you are starting out and are still discovering what works for you, though I know some people always have some kind of drop. I tend to get...

I definitely think a choker is the way to go. I am liking the idea more and more. Thanks guys.

You have to talk to him about it. If he doesn't know it gets you off, how can he do it? I learnt this the hard way, years of holding it all in when actually, after lots of encouragement and practise, my husband was more than happy to indulge my kinks. You will have to be patient though as it...

@Stanley - I meant 24/7 type relationship or master/slave. We are equals in day to day life so I think he might think it a bit odd if I say I want a collar. @Moon - I know what you mean. I stopped wearing big earrings and long necklaces when I had kids, they were always yanking. I'd like...

I have always had a thing about collars. I guess I have a thing about things around my neck in general but I like the idea of having a collar but it seems those I come across with them have been given them by their 'owner or master'. I do not have that type of relationship with my husband. I am...

You don't have to be 100% Dom 100% of the time. It's possible to have a softer side in the same way subs can have forceful personalities. You can be anything you want to be. I think she maybe wanting to run before she walks with wanting 24/7 lifestyle. That's a fantasy right now, you have to...

Ok I do not think being stoned, high, drunk or otherwise intoxicated is a good idea. Even when you think you are in control, you aren't fully. I'm not bashing you for it, I get where you are coming from. My husband couldn't adapt to being the mean Dom type to me at first and used to drink to...

My personal opinion is that anything that involves bringing someone else into the sexual relationship, particularly a marriage, is asking for trouble. I know some people swear it has made their marriage/relationship stronger but I don't see how you can get over jealousy issues. It's a natural...

Back to the original question though... I do not do anything sexual at all when I'm on my period. Personal preference, I think it's icky, even if Im horny I'm not going to let him do anything to me and he isn't up for anything like that anyway. It's a turn off for both of us. I couldn't deal...

Personally I think any sexual contact is sex. I always say to my partner, if another guy was doing 'x' to me, would it bother you? Of course it would... if I was sucking another guy's dick or he was fingering me. It's sex. And I agree that people can feel like certain things are ok but I would...

Personally I think if you have an orgasm you should know all about it. Having said that, not all are equal and some are rather a let down. Depending on how turned on you are, relaxed and what is going on at the crucial moment, some can be underwhelming. I have had some in the past that have...

Has anyone done this after orgasm? I'm guessing this is more a female thing but it totally caught me off guard and freaked my guy out a little, he thought He'd done something wrong and I couldn't articulate at the time what was wrong or that I was ok. It was so intense and overwhelming. I've...

@yes, sir - I totally get that. Sometimes I'm counting down the mins till bed time and can feel him watching me with that look. It is SO FREAKING HOT :D

The psychological aspect is always going to be trickier I feel, they can learn how to spank or tie ropes etc but the mental side and adopting an effective and convincing Dom persona can take more time. You have to be really specific sometimes, which can be awkward, but it does help. He can see...