Recent content by sebastian

I used to come here a lot a few years back, when SMplace was a genuine community. I got to know some people well, learned a lot, and felt like I was able to help guide a few people. Smplace was my first kink home on the Net. I stopped coming here about a year ago. The community was basically...

Lots of submissive freeze up or get very still when a dominant touches them. It's a sign that they're waiting to be used, a gesture of receptivity. Since you don't know the man, you were probably projecting your desires onto him and hoping that he would take some action. Enjoy the moment for...

Well, Fetlife is structured in a way that encourages people to self-select those they will interact with, based on shared interests. From what I've seen, a lot of the gays tend to cluster in the groups specifically for gays. There is a running complaint that the Kinky and Popular feature...

:( The ads are basically a big "fuck off, gays" sign.

Seeking advice from other subs is good, but you should be speaking to your mistress about this. She's given you a command and you're not sure how to carry it out, so you need to go to her and ask her for guidance. Having given you a command, it's her responsibility to see to it that you have the...

I would be sad to leave SMplace, but it might be for the best. Perhaps we could bring the Newcomer's FAQ with us.

Veronika, I like Fetlife, but it has some serious limitations, and I've never feel a sense of community there the way SMplace used to have. The community here has been shrinking, but it doesn't have to be that way. This site has a tradition of being very supportive and non-judgmental, and I'd...

And this community was more manageable than Fetlife. Fetlife is so sorted out by kinks and gender and orientation. It doesn't have the sense of friendly community that SMplace used to have, although that's mostly dried up in the past year, I guess because Fetlife has sucked all the oxygen out of...

The sudden explosion of ads on this site has gotten me thinking about a really common problem that gay men encounter when dealing with supposedly pansexual events and sites. In theory, pansexual stuff like this site is supposed to be equally accepting of all genders and sexual orientations. But...

Although I've never done sounding, I remember reading about a guy who used something inappropriate as a sound and gave himself a very nasty cut that got infected. So cuts, UTIs and scarring is definitely a real issue. I wouldn't bring it up if I thought it wasn't a real concern. I have a...

Oh, joy. The ads are back and worse than ever.

Making your own sounds is a very bad idea. The sounds you are likely to find for sale are made of surgical steel. They are technically medical implements and should be perfectly smooth. That smoothness means that they're easy to disinfect, because bacteria won't have any cracks to hide in. Also...

That's a good point about limits. They often change and evolve as we become more experienced. I used to think that pup play was pretty weird and not something I would ever do. Now, I get why it's hot, and my slave and I have dabbled in it.

I would agree. The issue with Severine's relationship isn't BDSM. It's that he's not finding kink women to play with and he's focusing too much of his attention on his kink.

Merry Christmas, everyone! Hope Santa stuffs your stocking nicely!