Recent content by rooluvr

Were these invasive thoughts or were they concious desires? Personally, I occasionally get invasive thoughts about all sorts of things, but that's most likely due to a mild form of OCD than any concious desire.

Hi, f0ilman, I know you have your heart set, but I would caution you from locking yourself into that kind of relationship without trying something more mundane first. Sure, your penis is smaller than average, and sure you may be embarrassed about it, but really, your penis is not the whole of...

I can only speak for myself. I couldn't really handle a 24/7 relationship of the type you're talking about. I feel as though I am more multi-fasceted than that. I would personally find the requirement to play that specific role all the time to be quite draining. But as they say, different...

Sebastian: people who are diagnosed BPD usually report a feeling of emptiness or hollowness, a lack of self. The control thing is transferrence, apparently to get others to feel one's emotions because one is unable to feel those emotions onself. That's the mumbo jumbo anyway. Smallest: I...

Needing to be needed can turn into a kind of codependency. A codependent relationship is not good for anyone, really. You're both young and will have many opportunities for relationships in the future. Let him go and you'll be back together later if it was meant to be. As the song says: the...

Oh, dear foreverbunny. My heart really does go out to you. As I self-indulgently posted before, I dated a man who suffered from BPD and it was very traumatic for the both of us. I could type a lot of pop psychology mumbo jumbo of things I have learnt and experienced of this condition. You...

Hi, Sado Sub. Welcome! I'm new here too, but as you'll find find in most places, people are the same here as they are anywhere. As the others have, I'd also like to discourage you from practising beastiality as I don't believe consent can be given in this case. I have to smile a little at the...

I don't think that's necessarily politics you're experiencing but more likely prejudice from people who have limited experience and a narrow world view. I've heard both homophobes and homos decry "political correctness" when they are really all just talking about stupid people. :p

I agree with all the above, always use lube and protection. I am pretty confident that you will get pain during anal sex, especially the first few times. The kind of pain will vary depending on you and on your guy. Everyone's different after all. If I were to describe it, I'd have to say it...

Thanks for that, I will have to keep reminding myself of this. I am not used to being the one demanding things. It's ironic that my last boyfriend complained that he wanted me to be "more assertive" in the bedroom. Perhaps this is a lesson life is very keen on teaching me at the moment. I look...

Thanks everyone for your responses! I had seen the "Sports Sheets" under-the-bed system before but some of the reviews were lacklustre at best (reports of the material coming apart and the velcro cuffs being too small). I went ahead and got it anyway and so we'll see how it goes. At the same...

Thank you for your reply! Yeah, he's away on holiday at the moment, but when I get some quiet time with him we'll have a long discussion about hard and soft limits and the sorts of things we want out of this. I understand it's really important and it makes sense =D We are family! I have...

So, I've been dutifully reading about knot tying and trying to figure out the best rope to use. Meanwhile, the gnawing problem in the back of my head is: I don't have any bed posts on my bed. I mean, it's a nice Queen sized bed, but there's no bed posts. It has bolt-holes where the wheels...

Heh, I dated a guy for a whole year who most likely suffered borderline personality disorder. He was the first guy I ever had sex with (lucky me) and he seemed quite OK to begin with. People who suffer BPD often exhibit the following symptoms: - the "borderline dance" of pushing people away...

Hi, all. I'm new to this and unsure where the rabbit hole leads, but I am looking forward to the journey. I guess I have a lot of questions, but really I think what I need to do is normalise my experience against those going through similar things. That's what I'm here for! There's a lot more...