Recent content by P.S.Eudonym

For starters, abandon the idea to "train" him or to become exactly what you want. If he is going to change, its going to be on his own volition because he wants to. At this point, it seems to me, he is in an exploratory phase. He deals with issues and barriers you crossed a long time ago and it...

Welcome to the Forums LaGuera. In the simplest terms, BDSM is a power exchange. Basically, every possible kink you could ever think of is possible, but at the core of it, lies an agreement of two people to enter a loopsided relationship. One person, the dominant, gives orders and the other...

Even if it seems obvious, I would like to spell out the counter argument to this. There are two forms of consent: stated and silent. Stated is straight forward, you talked about it and agreed. Silent consent is more difficult to judge and thats where trust and responsibility come in. Trust is a...

Tickling can be incredibly torturous, especially when he sub is tied/ pinned down. Alternaively, the torns of a rose drawn across the skin, when used carefully can be intensily satisfying.

I would be careful with that suggestion. The human jaw is capable of impressive pressure, especially when in pain. Biting on a mouthguard, a sterile piece of leather or something similar is a good idea. Your finger is not.

Simple answer. If you feel uncomfortable with anything bdsm (or your relationship) then yes, you need to tell him.

Sebastian is right, finding a therapist you can work with is a lot like finding love. You have to "click" with the person in order to be able to open up and get the help you need. You have realized that there is a problem and started to think about it by coming here. That is a very good first...

I am going to say this in the simplest possible words: You need professional help. I am no professional psychologist, but I do have some experience in the field, with rape & violence victims in particular. There are so many red flags in your post that I don't even know where to start. I am...

I am going to be frank about this: Stay away from that woman. For both your own and her sake. She is married, period. Her husband is neither on board nor cool with it, period. You have no business playing with her, PERIOD. If she is unhappy in her marriage, it is her responsibiity to chose to...

There is a phenomenon called "porn creep" which is essentialy a variation of what you describe. A person develops a mental block to orgasm unless the right conditions (in this case porn or the two triggers you describe) are met. Most commonly, some people who excessively watch porn are no longer...

Your welcome and sorry I couldn't help. Out of sheer curiosity though, how can you be over senseplay? I always figured everyone enjoys that at least occasionaly. :)

Well, being laughed at is a valid fear in this. After all, everyone involved knows that none of this happens without consent and that there is no real power in being a dom. Our power is entirely derrived from the sub following our orders. Once the safeword is used, its over, so doming is a...

First of all, allow me to welcome you and express my respect for you taking it as slow as you do. However, also allow me to inform you that you need to take it slower still. Sorry about that. Second, yes there is hope. What you describe about your husband reminds me a lot of myself in the...

DV, if you scared your partner before than you want to take it extra slow and make sure that she knows what she is getting into. So, what you really need to do is not go over checklists but rather ask her what would interest her. Maybe suggest that she read some BDSM related stories and mark the...

Frostig, BDSM is what you are into, but not who you are. If you do not feel the need or desire to express your dominant side in public, then just don't do it. It may lead to you attracting doms, but everyone has that problem occasionally. I get hit on by gay guys every once in a while , even...