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    Building knowledge and experience.

    Hi, i posted on here a few times a while ago but will give a brief description of my situation so you know what im talking about! Basically ever since i can remember I've only ever had fantasies in which i feel intimidated nervous or humiliated. I remember being quite young and experimenting...
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    Good movies?

    Thanks for the suggestions, will watch lord of the rings again keeping in mind what you said Sebastian. I think you're right Smallest about books. I love reading but mu husband is not too keen! Think hes begining to come around though! thanks again all.
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    Good movies?

    Hi, I used to post a lot a while ago but we had to put things on hold because of health problems. I still lurk around lots though! Basically we are trying to start again in entering a bedroom only D/s relationship within our marriage. My husband had asked me to look for some good movies to...
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    Teaching: a two way street.

    Hi Khartas, I know you asked for info from doms and I'm a female sub so hope you don't mind me commenting! But, my husband and me are just experimenting with BDSM so unlike you, neither of us are experienced so are learning everything together! I think it can bring more to the relationship in a...
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    new to this

    Hi I'm new to it all too really but like Sebastian said reading through the newcomers FAQs is a really great start and has loads if info on there. We found it vital to have an in depth discussion about what we are both interested in trying and what we may try in the future but aren't ready for...
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    Taking a break

    Sorry to see you go Roland, really hope things work out for you. Thanks for all the great advice and info and hope to see you back here soon.
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    Frustrating vanilla husband.

    Yes, loved the film Roland! Thanks again for the replies. I think you're right Subarama30 I will have to try to be more specific about it. It is difficult though, especially as I find it really difficult to talk about it anyway. I'll keep trying!
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    Crying?

    Yeah that's happened a few times! It was a bit shocking for both of us the first time but hubby is kind of used to it now! I think its when its really intense with me, hubby does the same as Mrwolfgang now and all is well after. It's hard to explain but I feel that my body floods with something...
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    Frustrating vanilla husband.

    Hi thanks Subarama30. It's good to know I'm not alone! I'm glad you're getting somewhere after a long journey! Yea I'm accepting now that it will take time and I have to be patient, which as I said I don't mind as long as I know it is progressing! I am definately going to try and list some...
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    First: hello, then a bit about us, then questions...

    Hi there, I'm new to all if this so not sure how much help I'll be! I can definately identify with your body hang ups! I'm not plus size but I've always battled with my weight and worried about how i look despite my husband constantly telling me and showing me he finds me attractive! I have...
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    Frustrating vanilla husband.

    Thanks so much again! Progress last night!! We watched 'secretary' together (thanks for the recommendation Roland!) and we discussed the control aspects of it and he was definately more assertive after! We didn't really talk much but we did discuss after what we really enjoyed. I feel much...
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    Frustrating vanilla husband.

    Hi thanks again for all your thoughts and advice. I will try to talk to him again and make it clear how important all this is to me. I really want him to set some rules for the whole sexual side of our relationship and also we discussed deciding on a set night each week to play as I love the...
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    Frustrating vanilla husband.

    Hi, I posted a while ago for advice after realising I'd been having fantasies about aspects of BDSM for a LONG time! I've done loads of reading and have tried all ways to get my husband to read to understand mainly the actual D/s relationship and also the safety aspects. He'd agreed to do this...
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    New Interest...

    Hi, can't really offer any advice but just wanted to say you're not alone! We're kind of in the same place at the moment, my husband hates to admit that he doesn't know anything about a subject! I've spoken to him about not being able to trust him enough to try things out as I know he.doesn't...
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    Hi, newbie full of questions!

    Thanks again for all the great replies, its given me lots to think about. Will keep you updated! Thanks again.
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