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    Happiness in a vanilla relationship?

    I'd also just like to add that while I do want to have a baby, I have wrangled those runaway hormones under control to the point where I now realize that as I am currently in College with a rather ambitious goal now may not be the best time to procreate! So don't worry, this 19 year old won't be...
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    Happiness in a vanilla relationship?

    @Moonlight- I know, I've heard this baby speech before, I even have a friend who had a baby her Junior year of high school. The bad thing is the reason that is most often given for why teenagers shouldn't have babies is "you won't have a social life/your social life will suffer" and that just...
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    Happiness in a vanilla relationship?

    Ed: I have tried to work with him in the past, I've begged him time and time again to go to couples counseling with me he just refuses and I'm kind of at my wits end as to what I alone can do. Moonlight: That is amazing, I'm very glad it all worked out for you. I probably would have told you...
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    Happiness in a vanilla relationship?

    Thank you all. You're all aright, I do need to end it and quickly. I'll do my best to muster up the courage to do so. BTW, sorry if this seemed like one big "Woe is me, take pity on me" thread.
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    Happiness in a vanilla relationship?

    I know why we don't have sex. He is 12 years older than me, he is constantly stressed and unhappy with his life, on top of that we're both overweight and he has admitted to me that he does not find me physically attractive (except apparently my face) so between him not being happy with his...
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    Happiness in a vanilla relationship?

    stanely_jeffries- While your post was very great and informative, unfortunately I have tried this, multiple times, if I even make a move towards wanting to give him a "surprise blow job" he stops me, no matter if it's at night in the morning or just during the day. No matter how much I push him...
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    Happiness in a vanilla relationship?

    I mean I realize that, that is what ultimately needs to happen, however I was just hoping that someone might be able to give me some advice for how to move past my desires when trying to make him be into it is not an option.
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    Happiness in a vanilla relationship?

    I have read the newcomer's FAQ (well skimmed through most of it) and did see that section, but I have tried being quite open with him and talking to him and tried a few of those things, but he really isn't into anything BDSM related or any kink for that matter. I know ultimately I won't be...
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    Happiness in a vanilla relationship?

    The rational part of me realizes that I have forever to find someone, however the irrational part of me that likes to put me down thinks otherwise and while the irrational part of me is smaller it creates enough doubt to where I stay for the safety.
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    Happiness in a vanilla relationship?

    No I've talked to him about it, he has started understanding a bit more but he's still not into it. I really don't think he is into any kink and I've been spending a lot of time trying to figure out if I can get through that or if it will always be a regret, I'm just afraid of being single...
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    Happiness in a vanilla relationship?

    I started hinting it to him and then even trying to talk to him about it, but he isn't into it in the slightest. He thinks it's odd an it worries him that I even think about those kinds of things. At one point he even hinted at the fact that he thinks that it is correctable through therapy.
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    Happiness in a vanilla relationship?

    So I basically just want to get some other people's thoughts on whether someone who has very strong desires to be dominated can truly be happy in a vanilla relationship? I have very strong desires to be submissive, I have a teensy bit of experience but nothing extensive but I am currently in a...
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