Recent content by Mistress_Andrea

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    Collar tags

    My slave wears one.. It says "Property of Mistress Andrea" on it. Walmart used to have a kiosk for them, but I dont' think they do anymore.
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    sex life after baby

    I've got 4 kids.. my most recent being born back in October and my oldest turning 5 in May and we are 24/7 into bdsm. It's challenging with kids and you have to learn a whole new way to go about it.... new "vanilla" code words, learn what each other's looks mean, and understand that it's ok to...
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    BDSM vs. Making Love

    When you're with the right person, it doesn't ever have to be one or the other... you learn to do both together.
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    To Safeword or Not to Safeword

    I don't really think it's the proper use for a safeword and could potentially give a sub/slave the wrong idea where safewords are concerned... it also could have made him very reluctant to actually use his safeword if it was truely needed. Although it's not something I'd have used a safeword...
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    Age Difference

    It can work, but like any other relationship (vanilla or Ds).. it takes a lot of hard work on both parts. My slave, who is also my husband, is 15 years older than I am... for us it works. With us, I had a very different childhood and experienced a lot of things I shouldn't have had to that...
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    Do We Need a Sex Therapist of DS Coach?

    Have you tried reading any of the books or watching the videos with her and explaining as you go along why you want to do it and what about it really gets you? Have you asked her bluntly to go that route with you more often? Have you tried bringing out the toys, laying them on the bed, and...
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    advice needed about my extreme BDSM husband

    I agree with a lot of what L8nightQ said. IF you want to find a way to continue the marriage, before you even attempt to tiptoe into BDSM with him, you need to address his porn addiction and what it has done/is doing to your marriage.. be upfront and honest with him about how it makes you feel...
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    Confused and upset

    My slave wouldn't have had the chance to have a and then later he said.. moment. Slaves/subs who can't speak respectfully of their Mistress don't deserve to speak.
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    Is it just me?

    Submissive men don't tend to "advertise" that they are submissive as much as women do, but trust me they are out there and are out there in abundance. I've come across more submissive men than dominant ones and I've also found that many men who characterize themselves as dominant like to switch...
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    Look at what I just found!!!

    And here's on example where having kids can make things more difficult LOL.. We actually have one of those.. in the backyard on the kids' swingset.. that my kids LOVE to play on... sooooo.. kinda ruins it in my head for other uses LOL
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    BDSM: 24/7 or for the bedroom only?

    All of our toys are kept in a locked duffle bag which is inside a locked safe ;)
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    BDSM: 24/7 or for the bedroom only?

    My husband is my slave, and the kids are both of ours. We'll continue to keep our BDSM relationship 24/7.. He's able to make decisions concerning the kids, but he knows me well enough to make decisions in accordance to what I approve of and he knows I hold Veto power over any decision he makes...
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    BDSM: 24/7 or for the bedroom only?

    My children are still very young (4, 2.5, 1.5, and one on the way). Like I said in another post, I use a lot of silent commands.. so many things can be said with a look and a lot of one word commands that aren't abnormal to hear day to day. We are very in sync with each other and my slave has...
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    BDSM: 24/7 or for the bedroom only?

    On Birthday's, Christmas, etc.. I still expect my slave to know his place, but there isn't much more that I demand on those days. Events like those are VERY important to me and to our Children (who should always be able to celebrate Daddy's birthday no matter what and should always have their...
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    Silent Commands

    I use silent commands more often than not with my slave due to necessity with kids around... so much can be said with a look. I also use many one word commands which he had to learn back when he first became my slave.
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