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    Getting your significant other on board with your fantasies

    his not taking it seriously may be a defense mechanism for him; as in, bdsm makes him uncomfortable and making it feel less real to him takes the edge off... +1 on the first response, a real talk is always a good start.
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    bdsm virgin

    good for you for giving it a try! I would sit down and discuss with her what you both want, especially out of your first scene. What she wants, what she hates, what you like (or think you may like), etc. Now, there is a lot of confusion outside the BDSM world about how we can do the things...
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    Female urethral plug

    Thanks for the responses guys, Don't worry, I (and my girlfriend) have done good research on the subject. I am not looking to use a sounding rod on her for extended periods of time (though we have purchased a set for short term use). Maybe I wasn't clear in my original post. What I want...
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    Female urethral plug

    Me and my girlfriend have been wearing chastity belts with anal plugs for a time now with great results. I want to take it a little further. Along with a vaginal insert of some kind, I want to use a urethral plug on her. I demand that she present her Internet history to me, and I have seen...
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    self bondage ideas or email mistress

    you could also take the ginger and freeze it in water or something of the sort, molded in the shape that stanley suggested... I am sure the cold would be quite thrilling. I'm a little crazier.. I like to use peppers of various heat
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    Psychological effects?

    yet another resounding response, sebastian. I think my girl does fall into this middle ground... Bearing what you said about specific words in mind, that does hold very true for us. After the one time we had to pause, we sat down and made a detailed list of words that aren't okay, and that...
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    Psychological effects?

    Wow... Thank you a bunch sebastian... My girlfriend does come from a very... challenged... childhood/teenage life. Now, that being said, do you think we should avoid it completely, or should we just tread carefully? I've been with her for almost ten years, and while this is a fairly new...
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    Formality

    I like the way you think. I had looked at RC vibes before, but didn't really know where to start buying one. What about one that gives a small electric jolt? we are just starting to explore that little bit of kink, and like it so far... good ideas :)
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    Psychological effects?

    This has kind of been bugging me for awhile now. Me and my sub really enjoy humiliation and verbal abuse, and it can go really far. This is something that we talked about, and that we both expressed a liking for, so we incorporate it into our scenes. As I said, it goes pretty far and once...
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    Hips

    I certainly do! although, I like my women with a little more meat on their bones, and once they get to that point... the rest of them is usually just as knobby.
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    Pic of me for you guys

    agh! why are the good ones always straight? haha! really though, gorgeous body and beautiful pictures. keep at it, I can tell your master is pleased.
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    Formality

    So, my girlfriend and I have a thing for playing out in public. We get all dressed up, I'll make her wear a butt plug and a harness, or some other such thing, and go out to some swanky dinner, dance, party, festival... you get the idea. I really get off on making her (and myself)...
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    Hands On BDSM

    Not for me. I have a thing about not physically touching my sub, telling her she's too dirty for me, etc. I like the cane/riding crop as well, because I can use it much more quickly, and accurately, than my hands.
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    How to get dom to come up with things on his own?

    This might not completely answer, but have you thought about dominating your boyfriend? When I first started out, the idea of being a sub really thrilled me, but... I ended up switching. If you are really intent on being a sub, I would get him to do some homework. you mentioned you directed...
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    What's your favorite food?

    honey is an AWESOME one! I forgot that ;) popsicles are good too if you know how to use them
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