Recent content by L8NightQ

If your relationship was personal, let her give the toys back. They represent something more than toys... probably to the both of you. For me they're almost ceremonial, and picked out specifically for that person. Even the leather, though expensive, is picked out and used just for that...

firenurse - I'm joining the fray. You have a significant relationship. You two should develop your own collection and toy chest. There is nothing wrong with how you feel. If you were just hooking up it might be different... but you're not.

I agree with Sebastian.... at least here in the states.

Halloween - There are many such assholes that convince submissive women to let them do this crap, but before you condemn everyone with that inclination, you should speak to a few true subs. What you're talking about and what we discuss are two different things, and one of my biggest...

Sugar - I read thru this rather quickly so maybe I didn't see it, but it sounds to me like both of you thought you were fuck buddies, but both of you had gone beyond that. Is it possible that you may have had an interest in someone, or had gone out with someone and he found out, or saw you...

Agreeing with Roland. Communication and time. This may sound obvious, but sit in the dark with a glass of wine or whatever, and talk about everything you do so far. When you are really comfortable, ask her what she fantasizes about. It may not work the first time, but if you make it a...

For people in high positions of power, who are submissives by nature... Periods of submission, usually including pain, are the only time they actually feel free, or "released" from themselves. That's the simple answer, though there are certainly many.

ls1- I can't tell from what you've said if your Sir doesn't like to read, or he doesn't like to read instructive materials. It's clear that he loves you, and that represents a problem, especially since this side of you didn't come up when dating (would have been easier then). My feel is...

Her-sir Perfectly normal.. Perfectly healthy Stop worrying. You sound completely normal to me. There are three things to keep in mind. 1. It's harder to cum when you already came. That's why some guys like to "rub one out" before going on a date with someone they feel is really hot...

gothula - Have you considered, being new to this, that your partner is trying to make you fit a fantasy, but needs things to go "just so"? I've got another take on this, and could be totally off base, but many of us, Dom or Sub, start really early with waking dreams that work into our...

This is going to be interesting. Please post about this as things develop, as I'm sure they will (develop). Welcome.

Roland - I strongly suggest you try "The Loving Dominant" by John Warren. It has a lot of very good guidelines and suggestions for dominating someone you love, and gives good advice on safety in ties, suspension, corporal, and other things. Seb - Thank you for your comments about the amount...

I've got a suggestion about the scarring from your wax play. Use cheap emergency candles or a jar candle with soft wax. The scarring comes from wax that's hitting at greater than 140 degrees, I would guess it's closer to 160. Here's a bit rambling that I hope will help. Parafin -...

This should probably be a section in the Newcomers section. The wand is very powerful and it can do things you want, and don't want. Here are some suggestions, for you and for Jack. Always use lubrication with the wand. It really makes a difference. Don't use it on high, unless pain and...

impkitty - Based on what you described, you might very well like "Topping from Below" by Laura Reece. It's one of the better fictions I read years ago and seems to fit what you're asking for. Hope this helps.