Recent content by Gilgland

Wow...I hate hearing about things like this, not only for the tragic outcome, but it also makes both gun owners and people who participate in BDSM play look foolish, and worse, dangerous. There is a huge responsibility in both firearm ownership and lifestyle play and MOST people in both of...

I got a new flogger lol

Wow Seb...That actually helped me in regards to my previous question on how to give a sub what they want. The gradual expansion of control and the decreasing of limits is specifically what struck a chord with me as well as the altruistic selfishness. I think you had told me this but just the way...

If you don't mind me asking Twisted, what were some of the misconceptions you had the he helped you clear up? I am very similar to your Dom in that even tho I like to be in control, what makes me happy, when all is said and done, is knowing I made my partner happy. That may sound kind of...

Thanks prince. That sounds like you and your master have really good communication. That is exactly what I hope to happen in my future relationships. I guess in the future I just need to look for someone who is willing to be open enough to tell me what they are interested in trying as well as...

It very well could have been L8. You and he have both given me a lot of valued advice. That actually sounds great. I guess that also will let me see her reactions and body language so I can learn them and be able to tell how she's doing with out as much verbal feed back as time goes on.

I understand how frustrating that can be from both ends because how can you know what you like until you try it but at the same time he is looking at it as part of your responsibility in the relationship to at least give him a rough idea of what you like so he has something to work with. A...

Thanks Seb. That sounds like really good advice. I just don't want to be stuck in the situation again where I ask "What would you like me to do to you" and all I get back is "You just do what you want and I'll tell you if I like it". Tho that admittedly sounds like an awesome sexual blank check...

First off I totally understand where your coming from, just from the opposite end of things and I agree that, at least for myself, sex is for the most part exclusive to being in a relationship. As far as what to look for in someone to figure out if they are a Dom or not, that is hard to say...

As I have posted in a previous thread I recently got out of a relationship with my first sub due greatly to the fact that she wouldn't communicate with me on her wants and needs. Since then I have talked to and played with a few subs and switches and had a blast and really discovered some great...

As older, wiser people have told me, communication is a huge key and subs are not the only ones with limits. Take things slow and just let him know that you need time to get comfortable with things. If you both are willing to talk about things honestly and compromise I think you will find a...

It dose, thank you. Still kind of having some self doubt from the last relationship and I'm trying to get my head on straight for the next one so that person, whoever she may be, and my self don't miss out on exploring that part of each other because of hesitation and lack of communication. On...

Yea I read that about a month ago and it actually was very helpful.

I know this may have been covered in an earlier post however, after a good amount of searching I cant find anything that really answers the two interconnected questions I have. 1. What are some things, as a dom, that you can do during the day, when your with your sub, to subtly remind them of...

Thanks for the suggestions. Looks like I still hav some shopping to do lol.