i understand your point of view, and indeed make certain items, but its also good to make my sub watch me order such items, with the anticipation of it being used on her.
it was when i was about 11 i was away camping with friends of the family, i was often turned on by my friends mother, and well started to play. i wud initially get the orgasm feeling but no cum, that came about 6 months to a year later.