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It seems to me that she's just using penis in anus as an example, not making a blanket statement about all homosexual relationships, comparing it to being spanked with a belt. I think the author would be pretty uninformed to say that all bdsm relationships involve belt spanking, so I think she's...

I don't think most people really think about it, honestly. I've been in a BDSM relationship with varying degrees of intensity for about three years now, and from what I've observed, those people leading "vanilla" sex lives don't even give BDSM a thought. I know I didn't. It never occurred to...

My story was that my girlfriend attempted to break up with me, effectively saying that things were "boring" for her sex wise. I've never been a super in your face "do what I say" kind of guy, but I am much more effective and happy when I am leading (in whatever aspect of life, not just sexual...

So I've never really gotten into the rope bondage stuff much. Not because it doesn't interest me, quite the contrary. But I just haven't done much with it. When I tie up my sub I use the simple tie I learned when I worked shipping windows (never thought then that I'd use that experience for what...

Id say try out everything you can on yourself first if possible. I recognize you can't really safely tie yourself up, but for impact you can try out everything on yourself. I got a flogger at one point almost never use it. I think I may have gotten a lame one or something, so I think for which...

A lot of the feelings you mention I've had myself. My sub has a significantly less "wild" past than yours, and honestly, I find it amazing that you're making the transition to the extent that you are. You're doing awesome. If my girlfriend had told me things like yours told you, I probably...

I lurk on this forum a lot, but hardly ever have anything to input. That said, I have a situation that I'm hoping some of you may have some input on. I did a search on this but didn't find anything. I've recently moved into a house with my girlfriend. We're into bdsm off and on, and we're...

So I'm still pretty new to all this. I'm enjoying myself but I want to get more into it and I think my slave does too. My question is about training. I hear people on these forums talk about training their subs all the time, but I guess I don't get it. I mean, I get the concept, but I don't get...

I've never come across that, but really it doesn't sound that strange. Does the idea of trying out that fantasy make you uncomfortable? If so, how much? Scale of one to ten. If the answer is somewhere in the 7 range or lower, I'd say just try it out. If you stay in your comfort zone you'll...

I've found that whipping with a cord (folded up so no pointy ends are contacting) is VERY quiet and VERY painful. The amount of force necessary to inflict pain equal to or greater than other spanking methods is minuscule. Hot wax is my favorite in theory, but it takes a long time and requires...

I earn less than my sub at the present time and it hasn't been a problem. That said, I have more money, and am generally more financially stable for the time being. Really, I hadn't thought about it within the scope of our d/s relationship. I suppose there are connotations based around who...

This site seems to have been down a lot recently. I've tried to replay a couple times only for the site to crash and lose my post. Thanks again everyone for the advice. I've been trying the things you've recommended out, and have been happy with the results thus far. She pretty much just...

I'd say it's about equal? It's no more or less difficult for me to initiate normal sex. If I can initiate normal sex, I'll be in the dom mindset automatically. I don't always go with that, sometimes I like to just be her and me not submissive and dominant. When we have more "normal" sex, I'm...

I love how gilmore girls is the thing about my post that is most openly criticized. Anyways, this is really not the issue. Your point, while well taken, is obvious. I already know this is what I need to do, and can from time to time, but not consistently like I want. I don't know if it's the...

It's been a hectic couple of weeks. The floors are being redone so I haven't had a computer. Thank you for the helpful replies. I'm not sure how big a fan I am of the color system. I'm new to this and all, but I do recognize the paradox of power that goes on in these kinds of...