Worried about these desires

[Gimzim]

Hey all, i'm new here and have a couple of questions. Basically, I've come to realize that i'm really attracted to the idea of being tied up, submissive, and all that stuff. I experimented with self-bondage from my early teens, I like watching bondage pornography, and i fantasise about this stuff all the time.

The thing is, I really don't like the fact that I'm into this stuff. It's not that I think there's anything wrong with it - there isn't - it's just that it conflicts with how I want to lead my life. I want to eventually get married, have kids, lead an open and ordinary life, and I'm worried that this stuff means I won't be able to do that. Sure I'm attracted to other things, but I find the whole bondage idea so much more arousing than ordinary sex. I'm at a bit of a loss, I guess, and I don't quite know what to do. Can anybody help?

[nix]

You can still do all that stuff. I know a few married couples either in person or over the net who engage in BDSM in the bedroom only, and have kids and completely vanilla lifestyles otherwise.

[ReallyGreen]

And you can always hire a pro-domme to engage your bondage fetish if your future wife doesn't think too highly of it.