submissive, bottom and slave

ToyBoy · 12-05-2007, 05:02 PM

Hello.

Can anyone tell me what is the difference between submissive, bottom and slave?
This may be obvious to those who have long-term BDSM experience but I am a novice.

Thanks in advance.

Zaxxon · 12-06-2007, 01:20 AM

That's not an easy question. Depends on who you're talking to mostly. Some feel they are the same, many don't.

Personally, I have not heard "bottom" used in my presence. "submissive" is one that gives his/her gift of submission to a Dom/me, while a "slave" surrenders to his/her Master/Mistress. Submissive is one's passive nature, slave is one that wishes to be more.

A similar question can be asked about top, dom/me, and master/mistress. And I would answer in a similar fashion.

onanian_the_barbarian · 12-06-2007, 07:33 AM

Here'as some simple ways of viwing them:

Bottom- The role a person plays/fills in a particular act of Dominance/submission. For example a switch could serve as a bottom in one type of scene or a Top in another despite their main nature as a sub or Dom.

submissive- A person who views themself as a partner to a Dominate.

slave- A submissive person who views themself as property of a Dominate.

Master Buckeye · 12-20-2007, 01:54 PM

Bottom: The casual term for someone who enjoys the submissive
role but is not generally committed to a fulltime D/s relationship
or one partner.

Slave: Someone who has agreed to give up all personal rights
to their dominant or master. This may or may not ever include
sexual contact.

Sex Slave: A slave whose designation is specifically for
sexual purposes. It is not simply someone who enjoys being
dominated. Many who enjoy being dominated and are not sex
slaves.

Submission: Surrendering control to a dominant partner.

I hope these Definitions Help you to better understand! MB

Trained · 01-01-2008, 09:21 AM

Not to disagree with any of the previous posters, but I would say don't count on any of those term when talking with a potential play partner. Everyone has different ideas on what these terms mean. In some groups, there is some agreement, but you move to a different group and they have different definitions.

When talking to a potential partner, explain clearly what you are expecting, what your limits are, and what you do not want.

Don't rely on on any general terms that can be misunderstood, because they will be. Everyone will be happier if if fantasies/desires, and turn ons are clearly spelled out in all their gory details.

12-05-2007, 05:02 PM	#1
ToyBoy Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 1	submissive, bottom and slave - what is the difference? Hello. Can anyone tell me what is the difference between submissive, bottom and slave? This may be obvious to those who have long-term BDSM experience but I am a novice. Thanks in advance.
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12-06-2007, 01:20 AM	#2
Zaxxon Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Northern, VA Posts: 2	That's not an easy question. Depends on who you're talking to mostly. Some feel they are the same, many don't. Personally, I have not heard "bottom" used in my presence. "submissive" is one that gives his/her gift of submission to a Dom/me, while a "slave" surrenders to his/her Master/Mistress. Submissive is one's passive nature, slave is one that wishes to be more. A similar question can be asked about top, dom/me, and master/mistress. And I would answer in a similar fashion.
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12-06-2007, 07:33 AM	#3
onanian_the_barbarian Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 13	Here'as some simple ways of viwing them: Bottom- The role a person plays/fills in a particular act of Dominance/submission. For example a switch could serve as a bottom in one type of scene or a Top in another despite their main nature as a sub or Dom. submissive- A person who views themself as a partner to a Dominate. slave- A submissive person who views themself as property of a Dominate.
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12-20-2007, 01:54 PM	#4
Master Buckeye Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 4	Bottom: The casual term for someone who enjoys the submissive role but is not generally committed to a fulltime D/s relationship or one partner. Slave: Someone who has agreed to give up all personal rights to their dominant or master. This may or may not ever include sexual contact. Sex Slave: A slave whose designation is specifically for sexual purposes. It is not simply someone who enjoys being dominated. Many who enjoy being dominated and are not sex slaves. Submission: Surrendering control to a dominant partner. I hope these Definitions Help you to better understand! MB __________________ The Master Has Spoken!
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01-01-2008, 09:21 AM	#5
Trained Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Missouri Posts: 6	Not to disagree with any of the previous posters, but I would say don't count on any of those term when talking with a potential play partner. Everyone has different ideas on what these terms mean. In some groups, there is some agreement, but you move to a different group and they have different definitions. When talking to a potential partner, explain clearly what you are expecting, what your limits are, and what you do not want. Don't rely on on any general terms that can be misunderstood, because they will be. Everyone will be happier if if fantasies/desires, and turn ons are clearly spelled out in all their gory details.
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